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What Can You Do When a Friend Falls for the Wrong Guy?

Wednesday April 23, 2014

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez


Ever had a friend that just couldn't stay with or totally leave a relationship? That seems to be what's happened with Selena Gomez, and her friends are wondering what to do. Hollywood Life says that "those close to her fear that she's been manipulated and turned into a "robot" by her on-again, off-again boyfriend" Justin Bieber.

I don't know Selena or Justin, but I've been in the situation where a friend has fallen hard for a guy that just doesn't seem to be right for her. It's a difficult situation to be in. You want to help and encourage your friend, but you don't want to lie to them and tell them they're with the perfect guy, either. Still, when you try to tell them the truth they probably won't listen or will end up mad at you. You definitely don't want it to come between your friendship.

Sometimes friends just need to do what they will, and all you can do is be there for them if down the road they figure out for themselves that this person is not right for them.

Related: Selena's Friendship With Taylor Swift | Selena Shows Us What Friendship Is All About | Justin Beiber Quote on Friendship


Image: Jason Merritt / Getty Images


How Much Are You Loving the Final Season of Mad Men?

Tuesday April 22, 2014



One of the reasons I enjoy the show Mad Men (and also why I recommend it as a good show to watch to spark a conversation with friends) is because it is so multi-layered. There are a lot of different angles you could approach it from, and as a result there's a lot to talk about with the episodes and characters.

I recently saw that someone posted a page on Twitter of Mad Men creator Matthew Weiner's notebook. I love that they did this! What a thrill to get into his creative process a little bit.

In an interview with the Paris Review, Weiner said that part of the appeal of the show is that it causes us to look deeply at our lives. He says, "The driving question for the series is, Who are we? When we talk about "we," who is that? In the pilot, Pete Campbell has this line, "Adding money and education doesn't take the rude edge out of people."

Is that a great line or what? Are you watching Mad Men? What do you think of the season so far?

Related: Mad Men Quotes About Friendship


Image: Frank Ockenfels/AMC

Small Talk News Items for April 21, 2014

Monday April 21, 2014

Welcome to the third Monday of April. The weather brought in beautifully warm temps by us. How about in your area? Did you know weather is genuinely considered a bad topic for small talk? Here are some better options. Also, commenting on a quirky or fun news item will also help you get from small talk to more meaningful conversation. Here are the items I've found in the past week that may make for good small talk.

Small Talk Coffee

Donna Tartt wins the Pulitzer.

A man in a Superman hoodie rescued a baby from a burning building.

I found this interesting: 10 people who had planned to board the Titanic but didn't.

Angela Lansbury is a Dame.

Want some random acts of kindness ideas? Here's five especially suited for the month of April.

Love stories like this: a couple so in love for 70 years they even held hands at breakfast. They died recently just 15 hours apart.

Are you a Game of Thrones fan? There was a major boo boo in a recent episode.


How Often Do You Lie?

Saturday April 19, 2014

When we think of liars, we often think of criminals or con artists, but the reality is that we all lie to some degree all the time. One study said that 80% of women admitted that they told "half-truths" and that they thought it was harmless.  The same study found that 60% of people lie "at least once during a 10-minute conversation."

That seemed awfully high to me, but perhaps people are just lying in order to protect a friend's feelings. It's not always the right thing to do, but then again thoughtlessly blurting out things that hurt isn't good either. (Gentle honesty is the right way to go.)


On RHONY: Should Heather Have Invited Aviva to Her Party?

Friday April 18, 2014

Talk around the interwebs this week has centered on Heather Thompson from the Real Housewives of New York (RHONY) and her un-inviting Aviva Drescher to her ten year anniversary party. For those not familiar, Aviva and Heather's friends Carole Radziwill had gotten into an argument, Heather defended her, and then Heather and Aviva were arguing. To keep her anniversary party a happy event, she un-invited Aviva, but then Ramona and Sonja decided not to go in solidarity with Aviva.

It's a mess, right? The thing is, I'm sure this type of thing has happened to some of us, albeit on a much less dramatic scale.

Personally, I thought Heather saying that she would work things through with Aviva going forward but just didn't want her anniversary party to be a yell-fest was perfectly fine. I would have probably preferred that Aviva not come either, especially when things were not in a positive place. It was, after all, Heather anniversary party, not some random get-together.

What do you think? Weigh on all answers that apply.


Also, I'm loving the friendship between Heather and Carole. I like the fact that Heather is willing to stick up for her friend. We don't find that as much today. Here's more about their friendship.

Related: When Carole and Aviva Were Still Friends | Carole's Friendships With Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy | Friend Jumper

The Kindness Movement: Are You a Participant?

Thursday April 17, 2014

You all inspire me so much, and one of the things I've actively become aware of is kindness. I used to a random act of kindness really sporadically. I never looked for opportunities until the last few years. Now, it isn't so much about just helping someone when you see they need it, but doing something nice without knowing if they need it or not.

Does kindness matter? You bet it does!

I think we've all experienced a time when we were at our limit and probably thinking that the world was a pretty bleak place. But someone, a stranger perhaps, did something out of the ordinary. Something that we probably didn't even deserve but they did it and changed our attitude with their kind gesture.

Now the question is, how can we do something nice for them? I've shared 101 kindness ideas to get you started. Until then, let me ask you, have you been a part of the kindness movement? What's holding you back?

Here are five reasons people usually skip out on a chance to do something nice for another person. See if one of these applies to you.

Related: Readers Share Their Random Acts of Kindness Stories


April Showers Bring May Literary Quotes

Wednesday April 16, 2014

ID-100194264.jpgHave you checked out the friendship calendar? It provides tips for making and keeping friends each month and also includes an inspiration quote to remind you of the importance of friendship. This month's quote is:

"A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud."

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I've got several more literary quotes about friendship for your reading pleasure. And don't forget to download the friendship calendar. It's a good way to stay ahead of all the important dates in your friend's life.


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Show Us Your Coolest Friendship Bracelets

Tuesday April 15, 2014

How to make and use friendship bracelets.


I think friendship bracelets are a cool gift today no matter what your age. They show your personality because you can make them yourself using your friend's favorite colors, and you can choose a design that really mixes it up. They're also fairly easy to make and inexpensive.

You can use friendship bracelets in a variety of ways and create them with different patterns.

I've created a Pinterest board with cool friendship bracelets I find. But I'm looking for more! Submit your idea or pattern for a friendship bracelet.

Small Talk News Items for April 14, 2014

Monday April 14, 2014

A short list of news items this week, which seems like a good time to share some of my latest articles. See if one of these subjects sparks great conversation with friends this week:

And on to some news items:

Amy Poehler and Tina Fey might be doing a movie together.

Bravo is adding 15 new shows.

David Letterman is retiring and Stephen Colbert is taking his place.


Who's Ready for Mad Men Tonight?

Sunday April 13, 2014

I'll definitely be watching the season premiere (the last season, guys!) of Mad Men tonight on AMC. Do you watch the show? You know, I believe you can get inspiration for how to deal with your relationships from just about anywhere, including a TV show about ad exec's in the 60s. See if these Mad Men quotes about friendship don't inspire you. Speaking of inspiration, isn't this season premier poster the coolest? mad-men-season-7.jpg Image: Milton Glaser/AMC

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