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April Showers Bring May Literary Quotes

Wednesday April 16, 2014

ID-100194264.jpgHave you checked out the friendship calendar? It provides tips for making and keeping friends each month and also includes an inspiration quote to remind you of the importance of friendship. This month's quote is:

"A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud."

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I've got several more literary quotes about friendship for your reading pleasure. And don't forget to download the friendship calendar. It's a good way to stay ahead of all the important dates in your friend's life.


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Show Us Your Coolest Friendship Bracelets

Tuesday April 15, 2014

How to make and use friendship bracelets.


I think friendship bracelets are a cool gift today no matter what your age. They show your personality because you can make them yourself using your friend's favorite colors, and you can choose a design that really mixes it up. They're also fairly easy to make and inexpensive.

You can use friendship bracelets in a variety of ways and create them with different patterns.

I've created a Pinterest board with cool friendship bracelets I find. But I'm looking for more! Submit your idea or pattern for a friendship bracelet.

Small Talk News Items for April 14, 2014

Monday April 14, 2014

A short list of news items this week, which seems like a good time to share some of my latest articles. See if one of these subjects sparks great conversation with friends this week:

And on to some news items:

Amy Poehler and Tina Fey might be doing a movie together.

Bravo is adding 15 new shows.

David Letterman is retiring and Stephen Colbert is taking his place.


Who's Ready for Mad Men Tonight?

Sunday April 13, 2014

I'll definitely be watching the season premiere (the last season, guys!) of Mad Men tonight on AMC. Do you watch the show? You know, I believe you can get inspiration for how to deal with your relationships from just about anywhere, including a TV show about ad exec's in the 60s. See if these Mad Men quotes about friendship don't inspire you. Speaking of inspiration, isn't this season premier poster the coolest? mad-men-season-7.jpg Image: Milton Glaser/AMC

Where Did You Meet Your Friend?

Saturday April 12, 2014

People are always looking for ideas on how to meet a new friend. When you're stumped like that, it can help to find out how other people met their friends. Have you got a story to share? Did you meet a new friend online or through a mutual acquaintance, perhaps? Share your experience.

Related: Where to Meet Friends | All About New Friendships



The Not-So-Surprising Power of Gratitude

Wednesday April 9, 2014

Note: I originally published this blog post last April, but it remains one of the most popular on the site. I think that's because we never get tired of hearing about gratitude. It's a key element to our happiness, and helps make our relationships that much better. Don't you think?


I was fascinated by a recent story from the Harvard Gazette that talked about the power of gratitude. In speaking with Francesca Gino from the Harvard Business School about her book, Sidetracked: Why Our Decisions Get Derailed, and How We Can Stick to the Plan, they highlighted interesting research that confirmed that positivity can greatly influence the choices we make. Gino says of things like gratitude, "a lot of these forces happen even though we are unaware of them. People might just not realize how powerful expressions of gratitude are."

I agree. I think we can do so much just by being thoughtful, and it benefits others as well as ourselves. Gino did an interesting study that looked at gratitude and how it affected self-worth. She had students critique a cover letter, with half of them receiving a perfunctory response ("I received your feedback on my cover letter") and half receiving gratitude ("I received your feedback on my cover letter. Thank you so much! I am really grateful.")

Not surprisingly, the group that received gratitude had a higher sense of self-worth (55 percent of them versus 25 percent for the non-gratitude group). What's more, the ones that had received gratitude were more likely to help out another student when asked for help.

She says, "Receiving expressions of gratitude makes us feel a heightened sense of self-worth, and that in turn triggers other helpful behaviors toward both the person we are helping and other people, too."

I think this is really amazing, and confirms the need for us show kindness and gratitude to friends and strangers alike. It's good for us and for our relationships. It builds self-worth, which (in terms of friendship) helps us make better relationship choices.

Related: Sharing the Love: My Friend Was So Kind to Me | Do You Have a Friendship Gratitude Blog?

Pizza Delivery Man Gets Surprising Tip

Tuesday April 8, 2014

I loved hearing this story about a pizza delivery man who, at first, was stiffed on his tip. Then, the next day he received a handmade card and a wonderful tip from the couple who didn't tip him the night before. Turns out they did the math wrong and wanted to apologize!

Can't we all relate to that? I frequently feel "math impaired" sometimes when I'm figuring out the tip or even just how much my contribution should be when I go out to lunch with a friend. Luckily there's always someone there to help me out, but if I ever totally stiffed a guy on his tip accidentally, I think a gesture like this one would be a good one to make.

Being nice to strangers, even the people like our pizza delivery guys and service people, can go a long way in and even help with friendship. Let us instance be an example of what we should do to make sure we're lifting people up and not tearing them down, even when it comes to something "as small" (to us) as a tip on a pizza delivery.


Small Talk News Items for April 7, 2014

Monday April 7, 2014

It's Monday and that means small talk news items. These are the quirky little things I've seen in the news that would make for good small talk. Commenting on a news item or two is one of the best ways to start small talk with a total stranger. Here's a few other things that work as well.

Small Talk News Items

We're having a good discussion on my post about hobbies. Why not stop over and share your thoughts?

Pharrell is going to replace Cee Lo Green on The Voice.

Interesting: how the most brilliant people in the world scheduled their days.

Wi-Fi will get faster.

Did you watch the finale for How I Met Your Mother? Apparently the kids filmed their scenes for it almost a decade ago and kept the ending secret.

A Mork and Mindy reunion? Cool.

Wow, Doris Day turned 90 and looks great: happy and healthy.


How Are You Doing on Your Resolutions?

Sunday April 6, 2014

We're a few months into the new year, and some of you are making great strides on your goals. We can make resolutions for any area of our life, of course, and that includes friendship. In January we published "New Year's Resolutions for Your Friendships" and since then it has become one of the most popular on our site. I think a lot of us simply want better friends and better relationships.

Did you made a friendship resolution this year?

Finding Friends As a Couple

Saturday April 5, 2014

Is it just me or is finding couples friends kind of difficult? After all, there are four personalities that all need to get along, and sometimes it's a tricky thing. Sometimes it works for a while, but if one person in the group is a pain, it can make every night out seem like an eternity.

What I've found is that sometimes I find a friend I like to hang out with, and so I'll invite her significant other over so the four (or six) of us can hang out. That works in establishing couples friends sometimes, but what happens when those friends break up? Or what if someone just rubs people the wrong way? Do you have to break up the entire group?

When it all comes together, though, it's so much fun. My favorite thing to do with other couples? Game night. Even if I don't win it's just so much fun. But I've also been to cocktail parties and movie nights that were a blast, also.

Need some more couples friends? Who doesn't! Here are a few ideas on how to meet people you and your partner can hang out with.

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