We talked about the high road recently, but what happens when you really want to rise about the negativity of badmouthing a friend, but find that she's doing it to you. How should you respond? Can you tell your side of things without being hurtful to her?
You might wonder what the advantage is in being respectful of a friendship that is over. It's simple. Think of all your friendships as connected. Now picture the damage that hurtful words do to one friendship. Then picture those words bouncing around one friendship and landing on the next. That's kind of what happens when you smack talk about a friend or even describe arguments publicly.
Other people may make you feel better initially, but afterwards, they'll remember the fact that your friend tried to get them on her side. That behavior will really never pays off in the end.
If you've tried to take the high road when a friend made it really difficult, I've got some advice.