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Cherie Burbach

When Someone Talks About Their Best Friend

By , About.com GuideAugust 28, 2012

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I caught an interesting blog post not too long ago about someone who used to have best friends when she was a kid, but found that in midlife she no longer did. I think this is a concept we can all identify with, right?

As you get older, the friendships you have sometimes change. But what interested me most about her post was her thought that when you talked with a pal who mentioned their best friend, it made you feel second best.

She said: "I took it to mean: Hi. Nice to meet you. We can be friends but not that good of friends because that position has already been filled. And perhaps I stayed guarded in the friendship."

I think this is such a good point for people to think about. When you're making new friends, you shouldn't talk about your current social circle (whether it's one friend or a hundred) in such a way that discourages whoever you are with from getting to know you better. Don't limit yourself in this way.

Related: Poll: Do You Have a Best Friend? | What If You Have a Best Friend Who Doesn't Think of You the Same Way?

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