Happiness is a hot topic these days. We're more aware of whether or not we're happy or not than ever before. When did this happen? I think because in many ways we have things easier than those that came before us, we can focus on things like our happiness. I also think we've learned lessons from friends and family who aren't happy to pay closer attention to our life.
But in our quest for happiness, I think it's important to keep this quote in mind:
"Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product."
This means that you won't get to happiness "one day" by doing certain things, but that the things you in order to be more happy should make you happier just by doing them. Confused? LOL! Let me explain further.
In terms of friendship (and let's face it, friends are a big part of our happiness), this quote means that you might think that when you have a certain number of friends, you'll be happy. As if "once you get there," to a certain number of people in your social circle, you'll be more satisfied with your life.
The reality is, though, that just by doing all that is required in order to meet and make friends, you'll be happier. Just by actively meeting new people and making small talk, you'll find that happiness you crave even before you find one or two people that you can get close to. Reading about happiness can also help, because you'll find ways to increase your happiness that don't have to do with other people. This means there will be less pressure on your friends to make you happy, which in turn makes the relationships you have with everyone that much easier.
So if you're putting off making friends because you think it will take you too long, don't. Sure, making friends takes time, but the process of making friends will give you the measure of happiness you desire.