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Cherie Burbach

Pathological Liar?

By December 2, 2012

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Susan578 asks in our Friendship Forum about a friend who has a habit of lying. The friend has been in a bad situation in her personal life and as a result has not felt the courage to be honest with her friends. Susan578 writes:

"I became close with my husband's cousin and consider her my best friend. She was obviously in an abusive marriage because I would see the bruises and from what others told me based on firsthand accounts and she would constantly lie about it not happening. She eventually left her husband and moved in with us.

My husband and I began to pick up that she lied often. Her intent was not meant to be malicious towards us or anyone else. It was more of a way to avoid blame (even for the stupid small stuff). We figured out that if she repeated the story without change, then it was the truth. My husband managed to learn of a way to manipulate the truth out of her sometimes.... Read more."

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February 27, 2014 at 4:51 pm
(1) Katrina Westing says:

There are two types of liars, those that are compulsive and those that are sociopaths. I married a sociopath. I knew he lied, he acted as if he could not help it, he even said things such as “what if I can’t quit lying” Then it escalated after his daughter got married, then his one sister died. he lies about everything big and small and pulls me in and I have been noticing he does get satisfaction when he can win me over. He told his daughter I am crazy and on drugs. So yes, it took years, I knew he lied but I didn’t know he was a sociopath until he was willing to take the one thing way I thought we had, friendship and we would enjoy vacations and going out together because friends do that. See in this clique who he claimed he did not like and would never hang around with, they are not taking their wives. It is bad, not sure what is next. I wrote him an email and was pretty civil and I was angry and crying, he is not home from work. I texted him. what is the point of being afraid. I read where the one who doesn’t care is the one who wins, well I want him to stop being a lying sociopath and I will not be called names. I was married before and he was abusive in all ways.

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