Every once in a while I get a question about how someone feels "stuck" in a friendship. That's a curious word, isn't it? After all, you're never really bound to a friendship formally, which is one reason it's such a complicated relationship.
But I understand the feeling of being stuck. It's like you want to perhaps move on from the friendship, or at the very least you're not happy with the way things are right now, but instead of doing something about it you feel trapped. Maybe your friend isn't very easy to talk to, and as a result you don't feel comfortable comforting them. Maybe you feel like you've been around and around a certain subject, and it's never going to change.
Like any relationship, friendship is bound to have ups and downs. If you're going through a rough time right now, you can take comfort in the fact that it won't go on forever. One of these things usually happens:
- Something breaks open in a positive way and improves your friendship
- The friendship just kind of drops off and you two naturally drift apart without the drama
- Your friend realizes something is wrong and wants to talk
- You work up the courage to have a conversation
- Or a combination of these choices
Always know that the way you deal with a friendship is a choice, and even if you do nothing, you're still choosing something. (In other words, doing nothing is a choice.)
Are you feeling stuck right now?