I have a new book on my "to be read" pile. It's The Art of Doing: How Superachievers Do What They Do and How They Do It So Well (buy direct). I caught an article recently where the authors, Camille Sweeney and Josh Gosfield, talked about the research they did for this book. They interviewed dozens of people they labeled as "superachievers" in an effort to find out about how they reached their success.
I'm interested in this subject because I think that often when one person is successful in one area of their life, it transfers to other areas as well. For example, someone that is a successful businessperson probably has good relationships in other areas of his or her life as well, including friendship.
Yes, you can be a "superachiever" when it comes to friendship. We've seen people that seem to have the recipe on how to get along with people and move from social group to social group with ease.
One line in the article stood out for me: "We found self-awareness was probably the most important thing that everyone shared."
In other words, superachievers didn't blame others, but took responsibility and looked for ways to achieve what they wanted despite the setback. This concept works in both business and professional areas, in my opinion. If you're not getting the results you want in one area of your life, change it. See what else you can do.
I liked that this went back to self-awareness, because this is something that people who have a hard time with friendships often lack. They blame others and are oblivious to the things they do themselves. These folks often lack the ability to apologize, forgive, and compromise. Being self-aware can help you own up to your mistakes and relate to people on a completely different level.