One of our readers commented recently on a popular post about what to do when you've been excluded by your friends. She writes in response to another reader, who shared her frustration about being excluded despite living her best friends.
"My so-called 'best friend' replaced me with someone else. I know exactly how you feel, love. I've been excluded, left out of plans, and when I do find out about plans, they are very reluctant about allowing me to go. All you really can do is go find some new friends, some who will treat you with respect and the kindness you deserve."
It's great advice, don't you think? Despite the hurt of getting left behind, if you dwell on it to the point where you've stopped making new friends, you're only hurting yourself. We all wish friendships were easier to figure out sometimes, but when you've tried and are left with a confusing situation that you don't know what to do with, all you can do is silently wish them the best and move on to people who will be a good friend to you, who will respect you and follow the Golden Rule.
This comment also reminded me of a popular search term on this site: "So Called Friends." I commented on this a while back that I think when you use this term about someone, they probably aren't your friend. They might have started out that way, but when they're not, you need to focus your time and kindness on others.