It should be a no-brainer that when it comes to friendship, you want positive people in your life and not negatives ones. In reality, however, people aren't perfect and as a result aren't always in a good or supportive mood. Even with that, a friend should be there for you, treat you well, and help you be the best person you can be, regardless of what is going on in their own life.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from people is that their friends just aren't there for them. More than that, sometimes friends are downright rude or even mean. You can't change people, but you can surround yourself with more positive people. If someone isn't treating you well or is only nice to you when they want something, chances are they aren't really your friend. Here are some benefits that spending time with positive friends can provide.
Support When You Need It
With positive friends, you don't need to beg for help when you need it because chances are they will be there for you without asking. Positive individuals want others to be happy, and will go out of their way to help you when you're feeling down or need some extra special attention. As About.com's Guide to Stress states, "Ideal friendships provide support when you’re down, fun when you’re up, wisdom when you’re lost."
Compare that to toxic friends, who might snipe at you or even laugh at you behind your back. Negative people celebrate the downfall of others, and as a result you'll end up feeling worse about yourself or the situation you're dealing with. Friends who aren't positive will add to whatever amount of stress you are feeling.
Health Benefits Of Being Positive
The more positive friends you have, the better able you will be at remaining upbeat yourself. Studies have shown that optimistic people tend to deal with stress and illness better than those who aren't positive. The Mayo Clinic lists the following health benefits that are associated with positive thinking:
- Increased life span
- Lower rates of depression
- Lower levels of distress
- Greater resistance to the common cold
- Better psychological and physical well-being
- Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
While the emotional benefits of positive friends are obvious, you may also be more physically able to deal with the ups and downs of life by surrounding yourself with friends who are a good influence.
Bringing Out the Best in You
Your positive friends will not only help you rebound from the negative hits you take in life, but they will also inspire you to be the best you can be. This means trying new things, achieving goals, and having the kind of life you dreamed of for yourself. Very often people have secret goals that they are ashamed of sharing with people for fear they'll be mocked.
For example, perhaps you always wanted to be a writer. Or you want to go back to school and get your degree. The negative people in your life will probably tell you all the reasons why you won't succeed. But who needs that? Chances are you have already gone over the reasons why you might fail and this is what has prevented you from trying. But with positive people in your life, you'll feel more comfortable sharing these types of goals because your friends will give you the emotional push you need to go after what you want in life.
Attracting More Positive Friends
You naturally attract the kinds of friends who are most like you. So if you're a downer, you'll probably find that negative people flock to you. The same is true for being positive. The more you are able to maintain a positive attitude, the more likeminded people you'll attract in return.
In addition, being positive means that you'll come to friendships with a healthier state of mind. Rather than coming off as desperate for friends, you'll be seen as someone who has a lot of things going on in their life. This naturally attracts people to you and many of them could become friends. Bottom line? You'll have more friends without even trying.