When a tragedy occurs in the news, something that really shakes you to the core, it affects you even if you weren't there or didn't know any of the victims personally. It has the power to change you. Perhaps after a tragic event you'll look at your relationships differently. Maybe you'll take more time with people and show them patience, or perhaps you'll end friendships that are negative.
Sadness, Prayer, and Deep Discussions With Friends
You may be sad after a news event, even though you weren't part of the tragedy. Senseless acts will draw you in and make you imagine yourself or your loved ones in a similar situation. Allow yourself to feel this, and talk with your friends about their feelings as well. Perhaps you both can learn something about your relationship as a result of what's happened.
You may also feel the need to do something. Even though the event might be across the country involving people you don't know, you may be compelled to help in some way. Perhaps you'll want to:
- Pray for the victims and their families.
- Send cards of sympathy or encouragement.
- Donate time or money to a related-cause.
Changing Your Perspective
Maybe the tragedy that has just occurred will prompt you to make positive changes in your life. When we see how fragile and short life can be, it's natural to want to pack as much life as you can into every minute you are granted on this earth. In terms of your friendships, you could:
- Call up a long-lost friend.
- Spend more time with the current friends you have.
- Show an extra amount of kindness to the good people in your life.
- End a negative friendship.
- Work through conflict with friend and get to a place of forgiveness.
When You Feel Lonely
Events that move you emotionally can also shine a light on loneliness in your own life. Perhaps you'll find that you really want to talk with a friend after a tragic news event, but you don't have enough pals in your life to reach out to right now.
Acknowledge your feelings of loneliness, and know you have the power to change your life for the better. Loneliness does happen but it isn't a permanent situation. You can do something right now to help transform your social life for the better.
Feeling Impatient and Annoyed
Sometimes a news event will bring out negative feelings in you. You'll become impatient or annoyed with other people and yourself. You'll begin to look at the world in black and white terms, such as "all good" or "all bad." Pay attention to these feelings and take a step back when you find yourself behaving this way. Call up a positive friend, meditate, or do something to lift your spirits and get you in a more centered frame of mind. If these feelings linger, don't be afraid to seeking out counseling.
You might also find that you're annoyed with friends who either don't seem to care about the event that has happened, or who care much more than you do. Realize that everyone reacts to things differently, and what you see on the outside doesn't always reflect what is going on in their minds. Be patient with people and allow them to deal with the events in the way they feel is best for them.
Don't get down on your friends who don't seem to change after a tragic event, because if someone is open to change it needs to be on their own time schedule. Focus on your own behavior, and if you feel that more needs to be done in the world, take a proactive step, like volunteering.