A Midsummer Night's Dream
"Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind."While this quote talks about love, I relate it to the judgment we sometimes make in meeting new people. There are times when we write off a potential friend before we have even given them half a chance to see if they might be someone with have things in common with. A friendship is always better when two people come together naturally through a shared interest in life, humor, and sense of fun.
Measure for Measure
"Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt."
Have you ever been shy about approaching someone you think might become a friend? This quote speaks to the quality of fear, especially when it comes to putting yourself out there and trying to forge new relationships. While you can't always be guaranteed that you'll become close with every person you meet, you will definitely miss out on the opportunity to have a great friend if you don't at least try.
One sure way to feel comfortable meeting new people is to get really good at small talk so you can navigate a conversation with someone new more easily.
"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
Just as there are different types of romantic relationships and marriages, there are also different friendships. This quote reminds me that what works for one set of friends may not work for another. The way to really know whether someone is good for you is to pay attention to how you feel. If you and your friend are happy with your friendship, that's all that is important.
"How poor are they that have not patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees?"
Being patient with our friends can be a challenge, especially when we have a falling out and need to really listen to their concerns. But if you can take a step back and trust in the strength of your friendship, you'll be able to work through disagreements more quickly.
"One may smile, and smile, and be a villain."
This quote surely calls up images of false friends and frenemies. Getting close to people who are friendly some of the time and yet don't seem to have your best interest at heart can be a difficult thing. When you doubt a friend, it can make you mistrust your judgment on all your relationships.
The Winter's Tale
"What a fool honesty is."
In this case, the word honesty is referring to being blunt and telling someone what you think is the truth, regardless of the outcome. But in friendship, gentle honesty is a much better way to go. Rather than just throwing out your thoughts, you weigh them a bit to see how they might affect your friend. While you should always be straight with your pals, you definitely should not be hurtful.
Romeo and Juliet
"Don't waste your love on somebody, who doesn't value it."
This is the key to any relationship, especially one involving two friends. If your friendship is unbalanced, you need to decide if the person you call friend really values you as much as they should.
All's Well That Ends Well
"Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none."
To me, this quote speaks to the various levels and stages of a friendship. Each friendship you have will probably be slightly different from the next one. Some people will be your mentors, others your BFFs, and still others might remain acquaintances. Each friendship progresses at its own pace, but if you pay attention to this quote and "love all, trust a few," you'll be on your way to making smart friendship choices.
Much Ado About Nothing
"Let me be that I am and seek not to alter me."
Having someone accept us just as we are is the ultimate definition of friendship. The more you feel like "yourself" around someone, the more likely that person is truly a good friend.