Don't you love it when some of your favorite television shows mimic the lives of you and your friends? Some shows give us a glimpse into our own lives, while others show us a version we can only dream about. Kudos to the writers of these shows, who have given us inspiration about our friendships with these quotes from our favorite TV characters.
Letting Go Of Who You Were
"Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe, you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be." ~ Carrie, Sex in the City
I used to love Carrie Bradshaw's observations on life in the Sex in the City series, and this quote really rings true for that time in your life when you realize you are going in a different direction than some of your friends. Now, on the show, the four girls all stuck (pretty much) together over the years, but in real life, changes often pull friends to opposite parts of the country, to different careers, and a variety of choices.
Many people brag about having the same best friends that they had in college or high school, but the reality is that it is very rare for this to happen. People change and their lives grow at different paces and in different directions. When one friend marries, has kids, or gets a career, sometimes they need to move on from their friends. It doesn't mean that it's forever, but it does mean that (as this quote says), you have to let go of who you were in order for you to fully become the person you were meant to be, and finding new friends may be a part of that.
Friends With the Boss
"I guess the atmosphere that I've tried to create here is that I'm a friend first and a boss second, and probably an entertainer third." ~ Michael Scott, The Office
Michael Scott is the king of inappropriate office behavior and crossing professional boundaries, and yet, don't we all wish our bosses were a little bit more like him? He enjoys people and has a need to be liked, which doesn't always make for a good role model in the office. Michael is the ultimate reminder that making friends in a professional environment can take some effort, but at the same time, you can create long-lasting friendships that way.
The Best Mentor Relationship on Television
"Lemon, you look terrible, and I once watched you eat oysters while you had a cold." ~ Jack, 30 Rock
Perhaps the opposite of Michael Scott is Jack Donaghy, who has become a mentor to Liz Lemon on 30 Rock. I like the relationship between Liz and Jack. It isn't an office romance, it isn't best friends, and yet, like any mentor relationship, both of these people learn from each other. Jack knows what makes Liz tick and embraces her oddities, but also encourages her and provides advice.
Communication Is the Hardest Thing
"Communication. It's the first thing we really learn in life. Funny thing is, once we grow up, learn our words and really start talking, the harder it becomes to know what to say. Or how to ask for what we really need." ~ Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy
Communication (or lack thereof) is the cause of many arguments in friendship, and even when we're hurt it's hard for us to express this to the person that caused the damage. Many people, in the interest of avoiding conflict, pretend nothing's wrong instead of being honest with a friend. Small disagreements (or annoyances) build and create big problems, which sometimes include the end of a friendship. Best advice? If you've got something that needs to be said, say it calmly, without accusing, and with the desire to come to an agreement.
Losing Someone Important to You
"One day you'll lose someone who's important to you. You'll see. It's very painful." ~ Joan Holloway, Mad Men
Truer words were never spoken! Losing someone, especially a friend, is a painful experience. It's hard to let go of a friendship, especially when there has been a falling out or even when the two of you have just drifted apart. Moving on and finding new friends is hard to do when you've had someone in your life who has meant a great deal to you. You can never "replace" a friend. But you can find someone new who graces your life in other ways.