Don't let frustrations bubble up to the point where you want to end your friendship. If there is an issue between the two of you, initiate a discussion before giving up on the relationship altogether. Before you break up with a friend, here are some things to consider.
Spend Less Time Together
Maybe you and your friend are just around each other too much and all those little quirks you love about them are starting to bug you. If this is the case, try taking some time away from them and see if that helps. Not every friendship is meant to be so close you're practically BFFs.
Backing away from the friendship will also give you distance so you can better determine the issues between the two of you. Once you get a handle on the problem area, you will have a chance to work it out with your friend.
Rules For Confronting a Friend
- Try not to argue through email. Too often people engage in an email fight, and the argument becomes impersonal and nasty.
- Tell your friend you'd like to discuss your relationship and ask when a convenient time would be. Don't just pop over by your friend's house unannounced with a list of complaints while she is making dinner or if he is busy taking care of the kids, for example.
- Be specific about the things that are occurring and why you are unhappy about them. Focus on your feelings, but don't assign motive to your friend.
- Address the issue with a resolution in mind. This will help you stay on track when bringing up examples and offering up ways to fix the situation.
Give Your Friendship Time to Adjust to Changes
Some problems can be solved quickly, while others will take several months (or even years). It all depends on what was done, how long you've been friends, and your individual personality types. In order words, every situation is different! The only commonality when working out friendship problems is that they take some time for both parties to accept the changes, work on behavior, and grow.
When you've given your friend a chance to work things through, you can then decide if you should stay pals or break up with your friend.
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