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Signs Of Healthy Friendships

Friends Who Are In a Good Place


Let's face it, great friendships are priceless. Good friends can lift your spirits, make you laugh, and remind you that you are loved. Is your friendship as strong as it can be? Here are traits that healthy friendships share.

Good Friends Are Real and Honest

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Friends make you feel comfortable with yourself, so you don't need to act like something you're not. Your friends know your shortcomings and love you anyway. You are perhaps the "best version" of yourself when you're with your friend.

To that end, a healthy friendship includes plenty of gentle honesty. Your friend won't lie to you, but they won't try and hurt your feelings either. As a result, you'll know where you stand with your friend and won't be afraid to share your true opinions.

Arguing in a Healthy Way

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Great friends want their relationship to be solid, which means they aren't afraid to talk through disagreements. They argue with the intent of coming to a compromise in their friendship, which may mean that they agree to disagree sometimes. As a result of honest communication, healthy friendships won't let underlying tension or negativity linger very long. They address issues, forgive, and move on.

Encourage Other Friendships

Even if you have the best BFF imaginable, it doesn't hurt to expand your social circle. That's why great friends will nurture your relationship yet still encourage you to meet people and try new things without them. A healthy friendship means that sometimes the two of you spend time apart, and that's okay. Because your friend helps you be a strong version of yourself, you feel free to establish your own identity.


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A healthy friendship has a large degree of trust. Just look at a friendship like the one between Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King. Gayle could probably share a lot of details about Oprah but she doesn't because the trust level between the two is high.

Trust means that you feel comfortable sharing your feelings or the details of your life because you know your friend won't gossip behind your back or throw it back in your face.

Respect Boundaries

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Healthy friendships "feel" right to both parties involved. This means that one person isn't longing for more time together, acting clingy, or feeling ignored. A friendship like this may take some time to develop until there is a balance that works so both people can settle in to the relationship.

Nurture Each Other

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Any relationship worth having takes work, but that doesn't mean it has to be difficult. Spending time on the friendship in a variety of ways (cards, time together, phone calls, Facebook) can help keep it a priority for both individuals involved. While good friends don't need to spend time together constantly, they do think of each other regularly and take time to nurture their relationship.


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