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How to Make Friends at a Job You Hate

Making Friends When You Want a New Job


Hate My Job

Hate your job? You can still make friends at work.

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When you hate your job, it can be difficult to find anything good about it. You might feel like you're stressed out, sad, or even angry at your circumstances. But there is one good thing that can come from a job you hate, and that's the ability to form friendships that will last long after you leave and find something else you truly enjoy.

The trick in making friends in this type of environment is to keep your attitude in check, and focus on the relationships you hope to establish.

Look for Opportunities to Connect With People, Rather Than at the Things You Hate About Your Job

Very often if you hate your job, it's because of a couple different reasons:

  • You don't feel challenged.
  • You work with people you don't like.
  • You hate your boss.
  • The pay is low.
  • The conditions are poor.


With any of these reasons, it's easy to fall into a negative attitude that you bring with you all day. This means that you'll walk around the office in your own world just to try and get by. You might even take out your frustrations by being crabby at your coworkers, which certainly won't help with the quest to make friends.

Instead, think beyond this job into your personal life. Even if you have to stay at this job awhile, look at it as a temporary situation where your goal is just to find a friend or two there. This will help get you out of the "I hate my job" vibe you'll be in all day and will put you on an attainable mission to get connected to people you have something in common with.

Some tips for making friends that can help in this situation:


Be Careful About Bonding Over Negativity

If you hate your job, chances are other coworkers feel the same way. You might think this is the perfect opportunity to bond, since you both feel passionately about how bad your work life is. But be cautious about bonding over negativity. It can set a bad tone for your friendship right from the start.

You may find that your new friend doesn't just want to complain about their job, but other things in their life as well. Doing this is okay if you also determine that you have things in common that can build a friendship, like:

  • Enjoying the same hobbies.
  • Similar family situations.
  • Same desire to have a best friend.
  • Same sense of humor.


Without something tangible in common, however, the only thing you'll share is the hatred of your job. When you leave your job and find something you like better, your friendship won't last.

Seek Out Positive Coworkers

It can be tempting to bond with someone else who hates their job, but a better strategy is to actually focus on the more positive people in the office. You'll find that conversations with them will center more on their lives outside the office, rather than the unpleasant things at work. This will allow you to move from small talk to making a genuine connection faster than if you were sitting around grousing about your job.

Use Caution About How You Complain About Work

With social networking, it might be tempting to complain on Facebook or Twitter about how much you hate your job, but don't do this! Your employer (or a future employer) may see this and you'll have a hard time getting respect (or even keeping your job) when you're known as someone that complains about work.

Finally, being vocal about hating your job can turn people off from wanting to make friends with you. Even if they feel the same, who wants to spend time with someone that does nothing but complain? Focusing on the positive will help you develop a bond that can continue after you leave your job and go on to the next.

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