1. People & Relationships
Send to a Friend via Email

When Your Friend Pulls Away From You

Lonely woman

The first sign that something may be wrong with your friendship is often when you just don’t hear from your pal. Some people are not good at initiating conversation when something is wrong, so you have to watch for the subtle signs that your friendship may be in trouble.

Common Friendship Questions
Friendship Spotlight10

How Often Do You Lie?

Saturday April 19, 2014

When we think of liars, we often think of criminals or con artists, but the reality is that we all lie to some degree all the time. One study said that 80% of women admitted that they told "half-truths" and that they thought it was harmless.  The same study found that 60% of people lie "at least once during a 10-minute conversation."

That seemed awfully high to me, but perhaps people are just lying in order to protect a friend's feelings. It's not always the right thing to do, but then again thoughtlessly blurting out things that hurt isn't good either. (Gentle honesty is the right way to go.)

 

On RHONY: Should Heather Have Invited Aviva to Her Party?

Friday April 18, 2014

Talk around the interwebs this week has centered on Heather Thompson from the Real Housewives of New York (RHONY) and her un-inviting Aviva Drescher to her ten year anniversary party. For those not familiar, Aviva and Heather's friends Carole Radziwill had gotten into an argument, Heather defended her, and then Heather and Aviva were arguing. To keep her anniversary party a happy event, she un-invited Aviva, but then Ramona and Sonja decided not to go in solidarity with Aviva.

It's a mess, right? The thing is, I'm sure this type of thing has happened to some of us, albeit on a much less dramatic scale.

Personally, I thought Heather saying that she would work things through with Aviva going forward but just didn't want her anniversary party to be a yell-fest was perfectly fine. I would have probably preferred that Aviva not come either, especially when things were not in a positive place. It was, after all, Heather anniversary party, not some random get-together.

What do you think? Weigh on all answers that apply.

 

Also, I'm loving the friendship between Heather and Carole. I like the fact that Heather is willing to stick up for her friend. We don't find that as much today. Here's more about their friendship.

Related: When Carole and Aviva Were Still Friends | Carole's Friendships With Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy | Friend Jumper

The Kindness Movement: Are You a Participant?

Thursday April 17, 2014

You all inspire me so much, and one of the things I've actively become aware of is kindness. I used to a random act of kindness really sporadically. I never looked for opportunities until the last few years. Now, it isn't so much about just helping someone when you see they need it, but doing something nice without knowing if they need it or not.

Does kindness matter? You bet it does!

I think we've all experienced a time when we were at our limit and probably thinking that the world was a pretty bleak place. But someone, a stranger perhaps, did something out of the ordinary. Something that we probably didn't even deserve but they did it and changed our attitude with their kind gesture.

Now the question is, how can we do something nice for them? I've shared 101 kindness ideas to get you started. Until then, let me ask you, have you been a part of the kindness movement? What's holding you back?

Here are five reasons people usually skip out on a chance to do something nice for another person. See if one of these applies to you.

Related: Readers Share Their Random Acts of Kindness Stories

 

April Showers Bring May Literary Quotes

Wednesday April 16, 2014

ID-100194264.jpgHave you checked out the friendship calendar? It provides tips for making and keeping friends each month and also includes an inspiration quote to remind you of the importance of friendship. This month's quote is:

"A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud."

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I've got several more literary quotes about friendship for your reading pleasure. And don't forget to download the friendship calendar. It's a good way to stay ahead of all the important dates in your friend's life.

 

Image courtesy of fotographic1980 / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

©2014 About.com. All rights reserved.