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Cherie Burbach

Facebook Makes You Happier or Sadder, Depending on This…

By September 26, 2013

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We hear such different things about Facebook, don't we? Sometimes we're told it's bad and that it actually makes us feel worse about our own social situation in life, other times, it really does help us feel good about things.

A recent article by Elise Hu from NPR said that the way you feel about Facebook is based in part on how you use the site. "Are you actively liking, commenting and chatting with others on the platform? Or are you passively lurking? Studies show active users get positive brain stimuli when engaging with the Facebook platform, while lurkers tend to feel increases in loneliness and dissatisfaction."


Personally, I feel okay with Facebook. I don't assume that because my friend is posting pictures of her family or a lunch with the girls that my social life is lacking. We're all different in our friendships and relationships. You really cannot compare your life to anyone else's.

The issue comes when you try to compare. When you look at someone else having "fun" (based on what you see on their Facebook wall) and you think your life is somehow "less" than theirs.

I encourage you not to think this way. Never, never, never compare your life, because you really don't know what goes on behind the scenes of someone else's life. A friend that complains constantly on Facebook about their life might be the happiest person around, it's just that they are using Facebook as a platform in which to vent their irritations.

On the other hand, a friend who posts happy things all the time might be miserable when it's all said and done. The online world, while a wonderful vehicle for communication, does not give you the total picture on someone's life.

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September 27, 2013 at 11:57 am
(1) Lori Lipsky says:

So true!

Well said.

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