Do you feel that you need more friends? The perfect number of friends is different for everyone, of course, but if you are wondering if you've got enough, that's already the first sign that you could use a few more. Don't feel bad if you desire more friends, because even people that have a best friend or several close pals might feel as if they need some more. Perhaps they would like a few more friends to do things with, or someone who understands their life situation more closely.
Here are some signs that you need more friends.
Going to Events Alone
Let's face it, even if you have a lot of friends, there might be one or two things that you always have to go to by yourself because your friends just aren't into it. I found this out myself a few years ago when I wanted to attend some theater events. None of my pals liked going. What I finally did was join a theater interest group, and met other people who also enjoyed going to plays. It was a good way to meet new people who shared a mutual interest, and gave us things to talk about right away. We could bypass small talk in some cases.
You can't expect your friends to be with you 24/7, so if you've been going to events solo, finding a few more people who also like to do the things you do is a good idea.
All Your Friends Are MarriedWhen you're single, it's important to have other people around who understand exactly what your life is like. You might get to a point where all your friends are married while you remain single. It's more difficult to find people to go out or do things with in these cases, so finding a few more single friends can really help. This doesn't mean that you lose your married friends, but it does mean that may need to expand your social circle.
Your Friends Are All Over the CountryI went through this weird time once where several of my friends picked up and moved to different parts of the country. I'm still friends with these folks, but I did need to get out and meet more people who lived closer to me after they left. We're lucky today in that technology helps us stay in touch with friends more easily, but it still doesn't take the place of face-to-face interaction. If your friends have moved away, make an effort to meet new people in your area.
You Don't Have a Best Friend
Having one close friend, or a best friend
, isn't a requirement for happiness
. But if you crave some closeness with your relationships, you might long for a best pal without even realizing it. Wanting a best friend doesn't mean you're lonely or that you lack friends. Rather, it simply means that you don't have one person that shares a deep emotional connection with you. In order to find a new best friend, you'll first need to meet more people. The more folks you connect with, the better the chance you'll find one that you really hit it off with.
You Don't Have Enough Friends That You Can Count On
You might have a lot of casual friends that are great when you want to go out, but when you really need someone there emotionally, they just don't cut it. It doesn't mean that these people are bad for you necessarily, because there are different stages and levels of friendship
, but it does mean you might need to strengthen your bond with some of your friends. If that's not possible, branch out! Making friends
is easy, especially with these 50 ideas for meeting new people