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Pros and Cons Of Best Friends

How One Close Friendship Can Be Positive or Negative



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Having a best friend, or one pal that you hang out with more than the others, can be a great way to explore the boundaries of friendship. Best friend relationships are mostly positive, but like anything in life there are a few negative points as well. These pros and cons will help you keep your best friend and you on the best possible terms.


Genuine Relationship

First, the positive points. A best friend is someone whom you are closest to. You may share a lot in common, have the same sense of humor, or share a similar outlook on life. One of the most positive things about this type of friendship is the "safety" of it. Quite simply, you are able to be yourself because your best friend accepts you just as you are. This allows you to be honest and genuine without having to "work" at it. You can relax and be yourself. Furthermore, your friend will not take things the wrong way because he or she knows you so well.

Arguments Are Easy to Move On From

Any two people in a relationship are going to argue from time to time, but in a best friend situation the arguments are usually few and far between and easier to get over. This is because the two friends work to resolve the argument with the objective of making their friendship better. They don't try to "win," but rather aim to understand the other person's side of things.

Easy Companionship

With a best friend, you always have someone to do things with. If you see an activity you'd like to do, you don't have to wonder who you could invite because you know your bestie will probably want to go with you. Moreover, best friends can usually just hang out and have a good time. They don't need to plan an involved event to be entertained.


May Limit Other Friendship Opportunities

If you and your friend are so close that you shut out any new friendships from forming, you're doing yourself a disservice. The benefit of a best friend is that you feel comfortable in yourself, which should encourage you to seek out other friendships. But this can backfire if you and your pal are so close you never make new friends.

You May Forget How to Make Small Talk

Making small talk is a skill, and if you're not going outside your comfort zone to chat with new people on a regular basis, it can be tougher to strike up a conversation. If you have a best friend that you hang with 24/7, you may think small talk is useless. But make no mistake, small talk helps you with work colleagues, acquaintances, and friends alike, so if you and your bestie are together a lot, practice making small talk with people you meet in passing.

Stuck in a Rut With Activities

Just like an old married couple, best friends that have been together for a long time may fall into a rut when it comes to the activities they participate in. Some friends may even fail to go out like they used to, and instead just hang out at home. It's okay to relax with your friend, but be sure to continue enjoying all that life offers. Don't get stuck in one place where you no longer experience new things or engage in your favorite hobbies.

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