What Is Bromance:
I love you, man! That's the line you'll hear when people talk about a bromance, or an especially close friendship between two men. The term bromance comes from a combination of "bros" (male friends or brothers) and romance.
Definition of a Bromance:
A bromance is a healthy, secure friendship between two heterosexual guys. The men are usually single, although many times a bromance continues even when one of the guys is in a relationship. The bromance might start with an admiration of something that the other man does, like his ability to shoot hoops, talk to women, or succeed in business. The men enjoy hanging out with each other so much that it becomes a (nonsexual) infatuation.
Bromances are also called "man crushes" because of the level of affection the guys feel for each other. Sometimes the men enjoy spending time together so much that they prefer to hang out with their "man crush" more than their significant other.
Celebrating the Bromance:
What kind of activities do you participate in if you're in a bromance? Generally, "bromantic" activities exclude the gals in your life and focus on things guys like to do, such as attend a sporting event, have a few beers, play some hoops, or the like. The type of activity really doesn't matter because the point of these relationships is that the time spent together is what is most enjoyable.
The 2009 movie I Love You, Man poked fun at the idea of finding a male best friend to stand up in a wedding. The line came from a series of Budweiser commercials in 1995 that showed a guy angling to get someone's beer. He would dramatically cry, "I love you, man" as a ruse to get the drink, but the line stuck in society and helped usher in the "bromance" movement.
In the television
world, perhaps there is no greater bromance than that between J.D. and Turk on Scrubs
. J.D. is a sensitive doctor completely in touch with his feelings. He's not afraid of showing his best pal Turk how much he loves him. In one episode, they sing
, "Guy love. That’s all it is."
Bromance Helps Guys Get in Touch With Feelings:
Perhaps the best thing about a bromance is that the men involved tend to be very secure with themselves, and in touch with their emotions. This helps them have more complete friendships with other guys, and also helps them relate to the women in their life.
If Your Guy Is in a Bromance:
Ladies, if your man is in a bromance, be happy for him! There is nothing in the friendship that will harm your relationship. In fact, your man's bromance may actually help him identify and discuss feelings with you more frequently than he would otherwise. Bromances are completely nonsexual and platonic, so it doesn't have to come between your romance.
Your man will probably need some time to be with his friend occasionally, which will give you time to hang out with your gal pals. Don't feel hurt if he and his friend want a guy's night without you. His friendship will help him to maintain a healthy life balance.
Bromance in Society:
While men have always had friendships, the term bromance has been popular in the last few years with the help of movies
and commercials. The male friendship is celebrated in movies like 2007's Superbad
, where the character Seth says
, "I just love you. I just wanna go to the rooftops and scream, 'I love my best friend, Evan!'"